I recently had the occasion to contemplate forgiveness. I bumped into the complexity of it while struggling with an old issue between me and my adult son. Curiously at the same time, a deep, old shame of my own kept floating to the surface. I found it odd that this 30-year-old memory would come to haunt me at this time in my life. Thinking about it, and wondering about the significance of the shame memory, it occurred to me like all the highway lights blinking into view one at a time, the dots connected and there it was – my inability to forgive myself. If I can’t forgive myself how can I extend that type of compassion to another? If […]
The My Daily Dose project on this site, or here on Instagram, is really all about looking everyday, for what makes me grateful, for what keeps me healthy, for what is beautiful in the world. I choose to do this because I want to be able to get through life without anxiety or depression at best, and without the need for medication for these afflictions at worst. And I am so very fortunate that it works for me. How I understand what I am doing is this: I am intentionally looking for something to be grateful for, and then reporting – whether to you, the world, or myself. Doing the work of looking – actually keeps me in the moment. Whether looking […]
Bibliotherapy is a fabulous adjunct to face-to-face talk therapy. There is so much information and wisdom out there why not take advantage! Under The Library section of My Blog, you will find titles I regularly recommend to my clients. Struggling with self-esteem? Nathaniel Branden’s seminal work The Six Pillars of Self Esteem has helped countless clients regain a sense of themselves, change negative thoughts – through the act of writing, an important part of the work in this book – and allowed for the sense of competency and mastery of self needed to live fully and happily. You will not regret using this book.