Hello out there. How are you doing? How are you holding up? I think it’s time for a communal check in. What’s working for you? What isn’t? Who are you staying in touch with? Who can you see? What are you looking forward to? (Oh yes, there is stuff to look forward to!) How have you been taking care of yourself? Your loved ones? How have you been nurturing the relationships that are important to you that you haven’t been able to be in physical contact with?
What a lot of questions eh?
It’s no secret that times being what they are, we are going to have to dig a little to rise to the challenge of staying ok in the world over the next several long months. I have heard a lot of people dreading the on-coming winter. The lack of light is a struggle for many. We are further isolated in the winter. The pandemic has already degraded our social supports, our social spaces, the places we meet for connection – we’ll now have the challenge of winter’s impact too. We need to come up with a plan on how we are going to deal.
For the first very long period of the pandemic, I was all about the things I felt I lost. Most importantly my ability to go see my family. It took me a long, long time to pull myself out of that sadness. I am hoping something has changed. Not that I don’t miss my family anymore, but instead, I’m starting to look forward to when I will in fact see them. And I even have a date which makes it easier to be hopeful, for me. A dear client of mine in a similar situation, has been a light for me – saying, “You know, if all I have to do is wait a year to see them, I can do that. I can do that.” We all have so much more strength and resilience than we give ourselves credit for.
Another client decided to plant tulip bulbs this fall. She called them bulbs of hope. I love that.
We all have it in us to figure out what we can do, what riches we do have, what is working. I can still go outside and walk in nature, I can still try a new recipe, I can still call my people, appreciate them, feel loved by them. I can definitely still be grateful about not being sick or having gotten sick .. my general wellness. I can look forward to the winter things I like to do: again, walk in nature (so fundamental and important to me), I can go snowshoeing, walking, try to cross country ski again (no promises!!).
The list is long, and particular to each of us. What’s on yours?
One last thing for now. Another way out of feeling lost, helpless and powerless .. is the act of giving. With all the money we are all saving not travelling, not going out to restaurants or concerts, and so on – might we put some of that to causes near and dear to us? Can we look for other ways to volunteer and/or give of ourselves? Being charitable, kind and compassionate, as well as generous, is a real balm to a sad soul .. to both yours and the receiver!
Stay in touch .. we are all in this together.. And we are going to get through these tough times, together.
Peace to you.